So you went out with somebody and thought they were absolutely
amazing. She was the hottest, sexiest woman of the moment. So, how do you
capitalize on the success of a great first date?
Here are 10 sure-fire ways to get that second date:
1. Ask her out again at the end of the first date. Invite her to do something
she told you she finds exciting. For example, if she likes Mexican food, tell her
you know the best Mexican restaurant in town and you want to bring her there
Tuesday night.
Set up that second date so she doesn't have time to think about the first
date, and so she has something to look forward to.
2. Text her or call her the very next day. Either text her a simple message
that says "Had a great time last night...Looking forward to the next time." Or,
call her and leave a message and tell her the same thing over the phone.
3. Don't agree with everything she says. Challenge her mind. If you agree
with everything she says, she'll look at you as being weak.
If she sees you as being weak, she will no longer be attracted to you, and
you will no longer get a second look or a second date. I'm not telling you to be
confrontational. I'm telling you to be open, honest and real.
4. Don't expect sex or force the issue of sex until it's right for you to have
sex for the first time with a new potential partner. You re both adults, and if a
woman decides that she doesn't want to have sex with you for a month, respect
her!
Or, if a woman decides she wants to have sex with you on the first date,
respect that decision too! When you do have sex, make sure that the two of you
handle it like adults and not like children.
5. Be positive and fun when you're out with her on a date. Don't bash your
ex. Don't complain
about all the things that are wrong in your life. Spend time getting to know each
other's good sides.
6. Listen to your date. Question things that don't sound right. Have a twosided
conversation instead of talking at her. Most men tend to want to impress
women with their accomplishments.
Women enjoy getting to know a man based on what's inside. So spend time
listening and having a conversation instead of bragging about yourself. The less
you brag, the more interested she will be!
7. When out with your date, do not check out other women in front of her.
Do this, and you'll never get another date with her again.
8. Compliment her once about the way she looks. Don't tell her all night
long how beautiful she is, because she will start to think that you've never
before been out with a woman as beautiful as her, and you'll start to lose your
power.
9. Compliment her mind. Compliment her once about the way she looks.
Bond with her mentally and emotionally and physically, and she will bond with
you in ways that you've never experienced before!
10. Once you've secured the second date, and the second date is
successful, you need to set up an "activity date" for date number three -- take
her to the park, go to the beach, or take your dogs for a long walk.
Do things that cause her to picture the two of you as a couple. Dates should
be creative, not boring. Sitting there and swapping stories over dinner tends to
get monotonous after date number one, so start creatively planning different
dates.
Have you ever been out on a date with someone you really like, but you
weren't sure exactly how to let your date know that you're interested in
him/her? It can be hard to know how to express yourself around someone
whom you don't know very well yet.
There are many ways to express yourself during a date. You could, for
instance, immediately try to kiss your date and attempt a long session of
"sucking face"... but that isn't wise. While it will certainly convey your
interest, it will probably give your date the wrong impression.
Clearly, then, there are better and worse ways to convey your interest
to a date (with the above example being one of the "worse" options). So
let's look at some more realistic (and better!) ways that you can let your
date know that you're interested.
Here are six simple ways to show your date you're interested:
1. Lean toward your date. Body language plays a huge role in what
you communicate to others. This is especially true on a date, where the
person you're with will be paying a lot of attention to your body language.
So, when you're on a date with someone who interests you, you need to let
him/her know it with your body language. One of the best ways is to lean in
towards your date. Lean in and smile. And when you're leaning in, look at
your date directly in his/her eyes.
2. Smile or laugh a bit when your date says something funny.
While we all know it's important to listen to what your react to things that
your date says that resonate with you. For instance, when your date is
saying something funny, contribute to that part of the conversation. Keep
the conversation rolling when it's on something funny and don't change the
subject.
3. When your date says something intriguing, comment on it.
When your date starts talking about a topic that is in an area of interest of
yours, respond with questions and get more involved in that topic. Say, for
instance you feel really passionate about an upcoming election and your
date says "Well, I really don't think I'm going to bother voting." You can
respond with something like "Wait a second. Why are you considering not
voting?" Then, let the conversation flow from there. Asking questions when a
date says something relating to an area of interest of yours is a great way to
get into a deeper conversation with your date while also showing interest in
what your date is saying.
4. Challenge your date a little bit. Gently challenging your date will
lead to a stimulating conversation. It shows your date you're interested and
engaged in the conversation, and that you're not just a puppet who just
nods and agrees with everything.
5. Keep your body language open at all times. Do not fold your
arms. Do not pick at your nails when you are telling a story or talking. Look
at your date directly in their eyes. Don't look in other directions. If you don't
keep eye contact, your date will not only think you lack interest, but that
you're looking at somebody else.
6. Bring your date "into your space." When you catch yourself
leaning back, lean forward towards your date. When you tell a story, be
animated. Whenever you talk to your date, use hand gestures and engaging
body language. Face your date and hold your in front of you. By doing all of
this, you're inviting your date into your personal area. Your date will notice
this and know you're interested.
So many things about a date are subliminal. You can listen, be a good
conversationalist, talk all day long, and get along easily with people. Doing
all of these things, however, may still not mean that someone with whom
you are out on a date will decipher you're level of interest. It's necessary to
clearly express your interest (so that your date will know you're not just
being courteous).
If you struggle with knowing how to naturally and effectively show a
date that you're interested in him/her, then following these tips will really
help you to break through many of the challenges you've had in the past.
You will also be pleasantly surprised at how much differently those
interesting dates will act towards you!
