Saying I love you..

The all times special three-letters word, “I Love You” is what we would always be hearing when we talk about love. It is the words that one would use to express their feeling of affection for their very loved ones.
But still, why is it that at times one simply just refuses to say it to their love?
There have indeed been a lot of postings from friends in our forum having such experience. Despite of them saying it to their partner, they just never got it back from their love. It is for sure disappointing and at times just hurting, isn’t it?
Are you one of them? One who is still waiting to be hearing that special words from your love or perhaps one who has yet to say it to your love?
Now, why wouldn’t one say it? Why would one be reluctant in saying it to their love, saying an I love you to them?
Hmmm…? Perhaps having the fear of shouldering that responsibility behind these powerful words?
Yes, it is in a way true. You shouldn’t be saying I love you to someone unless you truly mean it. Once it is said, you can never take it back.
Well in fact, a friend in our forum did share with us a thought of what he heard from a Christian pastor on a radio programme. In the belief of the pastor, a man shouldn’t be telling a woman that he loves her unless the very next words are “Will you marry me?”
Again, it is indeed in a way true. But if you were to ask me, I am just going to tell you that it certainly need not has to be that serious or maybe a better word to be describing, scary.
Yes, marriage should without doubts be the ultimate consideration of all love relationship at the end of the day. But do let me just ask, how soon do you see yourself getting married?
Well, there has to certainly be a considerable time of being together before the relationship would further develop into the stage of marriage. For some, a year or two and for some, up to even a duration of 5 to 7 years before reaching this stage.
So are you not going to be saying “I love you” to your love during these times, not even once?


This certainly shouldn’t be the way. A healthy love relationship shouldn’t be so.
Now may I just ask, why is it that you want to be with that love of yours? Because you enjoy his or her presence, always enjoying your time with him or her?
Precisely! A healthy relationship should always be an enjoyable one, one which both enjoy spending their time with one another over and over again. There is no need to make yourself be feeling so stressed. A healthy relationship should never be a stressful one. Having to deal with the fast paced world can be stressful enough at times. And so when it comes to your relationship with your loved one, it should be a relaxing and enjoyable one.
It is only when you enjoy the time with one another, will you ever then have the thoughts of spending that life of yours with him or her. Isn’t it so?
Saying I love you is just a way of expressing your affection for your love. It doesn’t have to be that stressful. It should instead just come from within your heart, in a very joyful and relaxing mood…
To be getting an “I love You” from your love is just always that sweet. And to be saying it to your love, is a nice way of assuring and promising him or her of your very love for them…
So, why not say it to them? Tell your very love just how much you love him or her.
You need not have to wait for him or her. You can definitely be taking the initiative. Why not? I am sure that your love would just love to be hearing it from you. Wouldn’t you love to be hearing it from your very loved one too?
Nonetheless, this can be a good way of keeping that flame of love between the both just ever burning and sparkling… To be getting an assurance of love from your partner, isn’t that what you would love to be receiving?
But do remember, it is still always the actions that speak louder than to words.
Now, maybe that him or her of yours has yet to say that very three-letters word to you but how has he or she treated you all these while, you should know it best. That tender, love and care from him or her is afterall what that truly matter?
Well, if he or she truly loves you, it is going to be just a matter of time when he or she will say it to you. Believe in yourself, your love and your relationship. Be patient in love.


Saying an “I love You” to your loved one is for sure nice. But then again, you don’t have to always be saying it just very here and then.
Remember, the words have to come from truly within your heart, in a very joyful and relaxing mood. And only so, will the real warmness and meaningfulness of the words be there; to be touching that very heart of that beloved of yours. Well, save them for during those special occasions or when the correct mood or timing is there…
And last but not least, don’t forget to response back in saying an “I love you too” to your love when you received it from him or her. A relationship is always a two-way communication, isn’t it? Don’t disappoint your love.
Well, you may not be ready now but when the correct timing arrives when you feel the want to be saying it, just do it. Be courageous in love…

What Do Girls Really Want on Valentines’ Day?

Hmmm… what do girls really want on Valentines’ Day?
This has always been a headache for the guys, having to crack their brain just each and every year to come up with some creative gift ideas… And to be coming up with just more and new ideas is definitely not easy.
Running out of ideas?
Ha, what to do? Girls are afterall just always more emotional when compared to guys. Valentines’ Day to them is certainly a day of great significant. And well, though Valentines’ Day is supposed to be a day meant for the both, the limelight would just be on them somehow, isn’t it? They just somehow seem to be the main lead on that very day.
So guys, I guess we just have to give it to them and since there isn’t much of a choice, why not we just make them happy? Well, when she is happy, happy will you just be too, isn’t it?
Afterall, they are not really playing hard to please. Just as like a kid whom will always be excited by the thought of receiving their birthday present, I guess they probably feel the same way too; just wanting to be showered and pampered by your entirety love on this very special day. They do behave like little kids at times, don’t they?
Hmmm… so what would a good gift just be?
Well, I would say that it is still always the thoughts behind the gifts that truly matter. It is definitely not the quality of the gift but more of that quantity of your love for her that you enclosed together with your gift that she wants to be receiving; that very message for her delivered together with the gift, expressing of your very love for her...
In fact the more personal the gift is, the more meaningful the gift will just be. If you have the artistic talent, by all means, make something for her. Hmmm… perhaps like some necklaces, a nice beautiful portrait of hers personally drawn by you or even a love song of your very own composition in a CD and etc. It is that creativity behind the gift. She will definitely appreciate your thoughtfulness and effort.
Don’t have such talents?
Well, at the very least, a bouquet of roses for her please. Don’t you ever have the thought of meeting her just empty-handed.


Roses have always been associated with romance. They are just always a good gift for expressing your very love for that someone. To be receiving one from you would definitely brighten up her day, especially on such a special day.
To be personally presenting them to her or getting the florist to deliver them for you? You can be surprising her in either way. But do note. If you are getting the florist to deliver them for you, make sure you personally write that message or delivery card. Your very handwriting and words will definitely bring about more sincerity, making the gift just more meaningful. Nonetheless, if you know what their favorite flower is and of which colors they like best, so much the better. It need not necessarily has to be roses.
But do note. Whatever flowers it is, each would resemble or carry a certain meaning with them. Their colors and nevertheless their numbers would all mean something. The very last thing that we would want is to be delivering all the wrong messages. You must be very sure of them. It is definitely worth spending some time to just find out to avoid making some fatal mistake. Once delivered, it is going to be very hard to take them back and all I can say to you is, Good Luck!
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Well, other than the physical gift, the next best gift for her would be your Time and Attention. Or rather, I would say that this is of a more important gift.
No matter how busy you are, you have to make time for her; dedicating your full attentiveness to her. To be able to spend this very special day, this very special evening together with you would just beat anything else. This is definitely going to be the highlight and the best gift still that she will be looking forward to be receiving on Valentines’ Day. You are her precious, aren’t you?
So if you seriously really cannot make it for the date, please try to make alternative arrangement for the celebration, bringing forward or whatsoever. Never ever try to just do away without it. Don’t disappoint her. Though she may be saying that it is ok, believe me it is not…
And to be talking about spending the special evening together, dining will has to of course be at some nice cozy place. This is one expense you cannot run away from. Well, what to do, it is still the guy’s job to be doing the paying and settling the bill. Anyway, it need not has to be a very expensive restaurant. The key here is nice and cozy, a comfortable place to spending some very personal time together…
The best gift would still be your time. Make it a best evening for her… At the end of the day, when she is happy so will you right?

Long Distance Love Relationship...

Will long distance love relationship works?
Well, this is really hard to be saying. But if I am going to be saying no, I guess a lot of you probably won’t like it. The best answer that I can give to you would be, it depends.
Yes, it depends. It depends not only on you alone but also your partner too. This is surely to be expected. A relationship is afterall a two-way communication and not just about you.
If given a choice, it would be advisable not to get yourself into any long distance relationship. But then again, sometimes we just don’t have the choice.
And well, when don’t have a choice, we just have to make it works.
So, what would be that key to maintaining a successful long distance love relationship? My answer for you? Well, it is still going to be that same old answer which you probably have like heard over and over again, “Mutual Trust and Commitment”.
Ha, sick of hearing it again? But well, have you been truly spending that time and effort of yours in giving and ensuring of that trust and commitment in your relationship?
In any love relationship, mutual trust is certainly a must and it especially applies when involving long distance relationship. When the both are not able to physically be there for one another, that belief and trust has to be there. The both must have strong belief in the relationship, believing in not only their partner but also themselves. To maybe put it in a more blunt way, you must believe that your partner, your very love will be faithful to you….
But then, trust is afterall just still a non-passive belief. Actions still always speak louder than to words. To truly support this trust you have promised, there has to be that presence of some actions of assurance. Now, this is where Commitment comes in.
So, what are the commitments you should be giving?
To just sum them up, they are namely Time, Quality Communication and nevertheless the most important of all, Plans.


Very often when the both are not together for a while, it is inevitable that that flame of love between the both would in some way fade off. Laziness might nevertheless sometimes take over oneself too, resulting in one not making enough of an effort to sustaining the relationship…
Now, not matter how tired or busy you are, you have to commit and allocate your time accordingly to make sure that communication between the both is always there and that they are of quality communication. Though you may not be able to physically be there, your voice of care and concern can always make a difference. You have to let your loved one knows that you are and have always been there for him or her…
Technology today has certainly help to make communication for the both just much convenient and affordable. Make good use of it.
At least a sincere email from you each day is a must I would say. It is a good way of sharing and updating each other on the daily’s events; what is going on and nevertheless letting that love of yours knows that someone is remembering and always thinking of him or her. An email would always imply that you are waiting for his or hers reply and vice versa, keeping the response ever going.
Phone conversation would be nice too. Do make it an effort to call him or her and have a nice chat once in while or perhaps maybe even twice or more each week. Making an international call is certainly very affordable these days.
Likewise, there are also many free online messengers services available on the net where you guys can use to converse in real-time through text messages. And together with these messages, you can actually be sending along with them some very interesting animated icons too. They can certainly help to better express your feelings and emotions, making the conversation just more fun and interesting. Web cam conversation is nevertheless supported by most of these messengers’ services too.
Now that a real physical date is not possible, a phone or online date will definitely be nice. They can certainly be very encouraging in helping to maintain the relationship. Do always make that time for your love, keeping that quality of communication between the both just ever ongoing.
And not to be forgetting the conventional way, send him or her some letters of your very own personal handwriting. Surprise him or her with some I miss you or motivational cards once in a while, especially when during special occasions like birthday, Valentines’ Day, Anniversary and etc. A handwritten card would definitely bring about more sincerity than to E-cards.


But then again, all these are definitely still not enough. There have to be just more of some undeniably genuine and truthful actions to guarantee that very promise of love between the both of you and this is where some real Plans must come into the picture.
Where would the relationship eventually lead? Now, I am sure that at the end of the day, you will want to be with your love; wanting to be able to spend and be sharing that very time and life of yours with him or her, isn’t it?
The most important key to the success of this relationship would ultimately be, to clearly know where the whole relationship would eventually lead. Surely you would want to know that all these tough time that you are going through is afterall just temporary and that you both will eventually be together?
You guys definitely have to be thinking far and make some serious plans for the future together. And these plans must conclude and promise one another that at the end of the day, the both of you will be together. With a common goal and a strong belief in one another, things can definitely work out.
Anyway, to be talking about making of plans, I do have one advice for you. Don’t be over ambitious… it is good to think far but do note; having of some short-term plans or goals is equally as important too.
And just what best short-term goal can there be? Well, that has just got to be, making sure that you both will physically meet up with one another every here and there as much as possible. Perhaps twice each year at the very least, meeting up with one another every 6 months?
You definitely have to allow the relationship the chance to be “recharged”. In life, everyone would be in a way having some aspiration and dreams, which they look forward to and this, just always help to push them on…
Similarly here in a long distance relationship, having of some date to be looking forward to can greatly help to support the relationship, giving to the both of you the strength to carry on. I am sure that you would be more than just thrilled by the thought of able to be meeting up with your very love soon?
Now to be answering your question again, will long distance love relationship work? Yes it can, it just depends on whether you want it to.
From short-term goals to eventually reaching that ultimate goal of be together? Well, if the both of you have strong belief in one another and are willing to work towards things together, I am sure you guys can make it.
Don’t give up without even trying. Fulfill that very promise of love made between the both of you. Don’t disappoint your love…

How Do You Work With Someone You've Fallen In Love With?

Have you ever been in the situation where you fell in love with a colleague of yours?
Oh, this certainly sounds very common. Maybe I should rephrase the question a bit. Ok, have you been in the situation where you actually like that very colleague of yours but find it hard to make that step in expressing your feeling of love for him or her, having that fear of what if you were rejected? Fearing of how to be just facing and working with each other if so.
Many have actually faced such problem, lost for what to do. And this is especially so, when he or she actually likes the job a lot, not wanting to risk creating a bad atmosphere at work. And for this reason, chosen to just run away, hiding away his or hers very feelings.
But very often they can never just lie to themselves, finding themselves falling just only deeper and deeper for that someone each day at work. Not wanting to create a bad atmosphere at work but in the end still not able to avoid it, finding oneself struggling within; losing all his or her drive and passion in work.
Well, there is definitely no need to be giving yourself all these unnecessary stress and unhappiness. Other than staying at home, most of our time is next spend at our work place. A happy working environment is certainly to be desired, isn’t it?
Facing such a situation, it would always be good to just let nature take it own course. Instead of avoiding, just face things graciously. The fact is just going to remains as it is; that very colleague of yours is just going to be there for each of those working days. You would definitely have to be facing him or her just very often.
If you truly like the job and see the possibility of yourself working there for good, you just have to accept things, learning to accept that friendship from that very colleague of yours; learning how to be more positive and to make it a more joyful working environment.
You see; things may not always be as negative as what you have thought.
Note. This is afterall only what you have imagined for yourself. The facts remain that things has not in anyway just happened at all; meaning to say that you still have the ability to turn things the other way round. Well, we never know… Maybe he or she might just fall for you along the days?


Why not? Remember, he or she is just like you having to spend a great amount of his or her time at work. As colleagues, there would definitely be that certain amount of interaction between you guys. If he or she likes the job just as much and nevertheless always enjoy his or her time at work with you too, things could be just possible…
Now instead of dreading to work, look forward to work each day. Let each day be a beautiful day, a joyous day which you would get to see him or her.
Build up that friendship between the both. There is not harm in just making more new friends. Friends can always help to bring about more happiness to your life and of course in this case, more fun to your job.
It is just how you are going to look at things. A great working environment or a bad one, you definitely have the choice over which one you want to be in.
Just let nature take it own course. Instead of avoiding contact with that very colleague, befriend him or her. And just how can this friendship ever be developed into any possible love relationship, we shall just leave that possibility open and see how things will be along the way.
If things don’t really work out well, you guys can still nevertheless be colleague and friends, isn’t it? C’mon! You have to learn to be more mature with your feelings… And if things really turn out well, then congratulations to you!
Well, why not? Why wouldn’t it be possible? Be more optimistic in life. If he or she enjoy his or her time with you, it is just very possible of him or her to fall in love with you too.
There is no need to run away, bringing unhappiness for yourself. We should always lead a hopeful life, shouldn’t we? And nonetheless, if you never even try, how would you ever know, right?

I Am in Love With My Best Friend..

Are you in love with your best friend, your very best friend of an opposite sex?
Well, there have been postings from friends in our forum telling us that they found themselves falling in love with their best friend but were afraid to reveal their feeling for him or her, fearing that it might just ruin the whole friendship. And that some were nevertheless feeling lost wondering whether is it alright of them to be reacting so.
Now, to be falling in love with your best friend whom is of the opposite sex is perfectly alright. There is definitely nothing wrong with that. You, falling in love with someone of an opposite sex; what wrong can there be? It is not that you are falling in love with your best friend whom is of the same sex?
In fact, to put things in a nicer and more encouraging way, I would say that this could just be an establishment of a healthy love relationship.
Well, how would you define a healthy love relationship? One, which both understand each other well; sharing a lot in common and nevertheless always enjoying that companionship of one another? Yup, these are without doubts few of the very key criteria to a healthy and successful love relationship.
Similarly here, why would one become your best friend? Because the both of you get along very well, sharing a lot in common, always enjoying that presence of one another?
Now that your best friend is of the opposite sex, it is just very natural of you to actually be falling for him or her. And this is especially even so, when he or she is physically charming or attractive in the looks too.
You are just very naturally reacting to your human emotions. It is just usual for one to be attracted by the opposite sex, especially when the both are also getting along very well with one another.
Hmmm….? Slowly and unknowingly just falling for him or her as the time goes by… This should just be a very genuine feeling of real love, I should believe? Falling just further as you got to know him or her better… Now, Isn’t this a love more beautiful and meaningful compare to a love at first sight?
But still, many have chosen to just keep their feeling to themselves for the fear of the possibility of ruining the whole friendship, hurting themselves just further each day.


Well, this can indeed be pretty tough a situation to be handling here.
But still, I believe that one should always be fair to oneself. One should never deny himself or herself of his or her chances and especially of the chance, which may just be the answer to his or her happiness.
And to be on the positive side; if you can be feeling something for him or her, why isn’t it just possible that he or she could be feeling the same for you too? This is certainly very possible. Perhaps he or she might be just waiting for you…
In fact, many of the couples whom you see out there used to be the best of friends too before they are actually together.
Now, there is no way you can ever just lie to yourself. Yes, you may be still putting on a smiling face in front of your that opposite gender best friend. But deep down within yourself, are you truly happy and satisfied with things? Or are you just feeling more and more miserable each day? Do honestly ask yourself.
Think about it. Don’t you want to give things a try?
Well, to be trying doesn’t necessarily mean asking you to just do a show hand. Remember, the both of you are afterall still best friends. There will be just plentiful of chances where you will get to be seeing him or her. You can simply make use of all these chances to slowly make known your feeling for him or her and at the same time, try to find out how he or she felt about you too.
And you can nevertheless also work things around by trying to get him or her to like you, to fall in love with you instead. Remember, you already have the advantage of the means to easily be initiating and arranging for some very “couple” dates or activities; giving him or her some little hints, suggesting that idea of a possibility of things between the both of you… And maybe along time, he or she will just develop that something for you too?
If you never try you can never know…
I know things may not be that easy for you. But you can definitely be trying in the smart way, which is not going to greatly affect or ruin the friendship. If things don’t really work out well, you both can just remain as friends.
Well, at the very least, you will know that you have been fair to yourself by actually trying and have not denied yourself of that possible chance?

Need Advice to Know Whether That Someone Like Me...

Hmmm… this is certainly one of the questions, which one would definitely be pondering about when he or she falls in love with someone.
Well, this is indeed a good question to be asking. You should of course know whether that someone does has some liking for you and only then, will you know that you could actually be proceeding further.
But then how are we able to tell?
The simplest and the most straightforward way to find out would be to ask him or her directly. But then that would without doubts risk scaring him or her off and that is what we certainly wouldn’t want. And I guess you wouldn’t be that daring to actually be doing that anyway?
A good way would always be through the indirect approach.
Now, the very first question to be asking should instead be does he or she dislike you? Well, if in the very first place he or she doesn’t even have any good impression of you, the possibility of things definitely wouldn’t be encouraging.
This, you should be able to just tell from your usual conversation with him or her. Recall. Were the conversation you have had with him or her sincere and entertaining? Or maybe to put it in another way, were the conversation held in a very natural and comfortable way? Has he or she been in like anyway avoiding you, very often not wanting to get into any conversation with you?
Do think about it, you should be able to just tell. Well, I am sure you have at times tried avoiding talking to someone whom you find annoying?
If you found nothing of a problem with the above, that is great! As long as he or she doesn’t dislike you, your chances will be there.
And so, the next to be finding out would now be does he or she like you?
But do note, to be liking you may mean he or she has a good impression of you and not necessary that he or she has fallen for you too. But well, to be having a good impression of you from him or her is always a good start, isn’t it?


Again, we will be able to just tell from your usual conversation and interaction with him or her. If he or she doesn’t dislike you and is having a good impression of you, he or she should just be more than willing to hang around with you, chat and talk to you.
So, to what extent are you guys like seeing one another? What are the usual activities you guys do together? Well, they can be of some group activities, not a problem. But during these group activities, have you both been like talking much to one another? Was it like you being the one always taking the initiative to talk to him or her or was it a mutual thingy? And surely to be asking, were there fun and laughter during these occasions?
Nonetheless, I should suppose you were involved in suggesting and organizing of some of these activities, in charge of calling the people up? So, did he or she participate in those occasions?
All these could definitely provide some hints as to whether he or she has any good liking for you.
And aside from the activities, have you both been like communicating in private with one another perhaps through phones, text messaging and etc. If so, was it like very often and regularly?
Well, this can again provide us with some useful hints.
And so much the better if you guys have been like going out together in private; just you and him or her. Hmmm… and if really so, how often is it? Did you guys like somehow arrange for a next date at the end of each date?
Recall and do think about it. Any positive hints for you, my friend?
Ha but still, the very question to be asking at the end of the day would be “Do you really like that someone?” If your answer is yes, just go for it!
Remember, as long as he or she doesn’t dislike you, it will mean that you have your chance. You can just try to make him or her like you more. And even if you find that he or she doesn’t really like you, you can still try to reverse things and change his or her opinion of you.
Well, if you never try you will never know… Just what good will it does to know how he or she feels about you when you don’t even dare to be trying?

Do You Have Any Tips To Get Over A Break-up?

Hmmm…? What would be the best way to be getting over a break-up?
Well, one of the “best” ways, which many would have probably done, is to get themselves drunk; forgetting just about everything, forgetting all their sorrow…
Yes, it is definitely a good way but sad to be saying, only good as in short-term.
Besides drinking, one may also choose to get themselves “drunk” by diverting their focus on achieving something else in life, which is very often their career. Believing that by doing so, they could just forget all their unhappiness.
But well, can they really just totally forget all those unhappiness? The truth is often not.
One can never just escape from reality forever. Escaping is again yet only a short-term solution. Need a long-term solution? Hmmm… well, perhaps the best would be death, ending of all memories once and for all.
Ha but then again, it is all going to end just along with death? In fact, it is not. Yes, along with your death, all the sad memories might come to an end. But with the end of these sad memories will only come more sad memories for your many loved ones and your family.
Anyway, I am sure that to be seeking death isn’t in anywhere on your thoughts right?
Well, the best solution would still be to face it. When you can’t run away from it, you face it. When you can’t forget it, you remember it. When you can’t move on, you stop.
Yes, there is no way you can just forget about the break-up. It is going to be etched on your memory forever. But to choose to remember it as a fond or bad memory, you do have a choice.
Now, I am sure that other than sorrow and unhappiness, there are also lots of other fond memories you have had in that past relationship of yours? They were sure sweet, weren’t they?
Not everyone can be successful in his or her very first relationship. For some, it may take them up to even several tries before they could just find that special someone of theirs.


Even when in choosing your career, you may have switched your job several times before deciding to stick to one final one? And you yourself know that this is what you have to do cause you clearly know that if you never give yourself that chance to try, you will never know.
The same is for a love relationship too.
There is definitely that fate between you and your ex that you guys actually got to meet one another. And there is without doubts that time when love was with the both of you. But it is just sad that somehow, you guys are not fated to be together afterall. But then again, if you have never tried how would you have known, right?
And nevertheless, there were indeed those fond and wonderful memories as we have earlier mentioned? Recall; it is still just so sweet to be thinking of them now, isn’t it? Now, this is a glimpse of what love can bring for you.
Think of it this way. A love relationship is always a two-way communication. For the relationship to go on, there has to a mutual happiness from the both. There is no point holding on so tight to something, which you know will not bring you ultimate happiness in the end. When you have to let go, you just have to and things are definitely better this way.
Yes, you may have failed once but it doesn’t mean that you are never going to find that one true love of yours. In fact, you can. It is just a matter of whether you are willing to move on…
Well, I know it is definitely not as easy as just by saying to be getting over a break-up. If you seriously can’t move on, you stop. But then stop to only give yourself some time to catch a little breather, to tidy up your emotions and thoughts. This is certainly to be encouraged.
It is only when you truly sort out your thoughts will you be able to then correctly move on. By lying to yourself and forcing yourself to just move on without a clear mind, you might very well find yourself lost; losing your entire life to the passage of time. And by the time you actually realized, things may be just all too late, having only tons of regrets and no even any of a fond memory...
Remember, life is always a journey and not a destination. And be it in the path of love or in the path of life, there is definitely bound to be up and downs.
Be courageous in love; dare to love. And not to forget loving yourself too, taking good care of your health. Don’t lose to just some failure. You can give yourself a little more time but at the end of the day, you must pick up yourself up and be ready to move on once again, yeah?

Have You Ever Fallen in Love With 2 Persons At The Same Time?

Hmmm…? Have you ever fallen in love with two persons at the same time? I should suppose your answer is a yes?
Well, there is definitely nothing wrong with that. What to say, we are human afterall, creature of great emotions. There is no way we can stop that very love chemical from producing and pumping within us. It is just very natural for one to develop a liking for another opposite sex especially when they are just physically attractive in appearance too. And not to mention that when the both are also getting along very well with one another?
In our interactions with one another, there just couldn’t be only one but many of also others opposite sex whom we would meet. And very often, we would just develop a liking for some of them, sometimes even more than just two.
That is life. Life is just full of choices.
But then again, what is the meaning of choice? Very simple, it means having to make a decision over which to choose and in this case whom to be choosing, choosing the one whom you are going to love.
Yup, there is nothing wrong with fallen in love with more than one person as long as at the end of the day, you make your choice. And to be able to truly experience some real love, you have to.
Yes, it is only when you are physically into a real relationship will you be able to then acquire and truly experience that real joyfulness and sweetness of being in love. If you never give yourself that chance to be in one, you will just never feel it.
Even a child understands this. Recall your childhood. I should believe that you have experienced wanting just everything when you were at the toy store. Everything just seem so fascinating to you then, wasn’t it? So you cried and bet for your mum and dad to buy them for you. And very often, you are only given the choice of choosing only one. But you refused the offer and continue to cry hoping you would be able to just get everything. And what happened in the end? You ended up with nothing at all. So you grown smarter choosing only one the next time, successfully getting what you want and eventually get to enjoy playing with your new toy, having lot of funs with it didn’t you?
Well, we can’t of course deny that facts that some lucky kids may get more than just one of what they beg for. But at the end of the day, of the toys they have got, he or she would eventually like one of them best, isn’t it? Hmmm…? Still remember what was your favorite toy?


If as a kid back then, you were able to make that decision over which toys to choose, why is it you can’t now? Not able to make up your mind over whom to choose.
Think about it. You certainly want to be able to experience some great and just fantastic love, don’t you? Then you have to just be like a smart kid, cleverly knowing how to be getting his or her toys.
Remember, you can’t have the best of the both worlds and that is for sure. Just like choosing your toys, you have to make that decision over whom to choose and only then will you have the chance to get to enjoy that wonderfulness of being in love. Hmmm…? Didn’t you just forget about the other toys at the toy store while enjoying yourself playing with that new toy you have chosen for yourself?
Believe me, things may seem great and wonderful at first having the companionship of more than just one. But it is just all of a short-term happiness. At the end of the day, the one losing out is going to be only you yourself. You will just probably end up with nothing at all, back to loneliness just once again. This is what our many friends at our forum have feedback.
Nonetheless, a genuine true love is what I believe you are seeking?
If you are not able to control your feeling well, you may unknowingly found yourself falling into the region of lust, hurting someone whom may very possibly be liking you too. I am sure this is something you wouldn’t want, right?
Now, follow where your heart goes. Between the both, there will definitely be one whom you will like more. Just give yourself some time… And when you found that answer, all the correct actions would just very naturally follow; you will just know what you have to be doing. In life, it is only when your goal or objective is clear will you know where to be heading and moving on.
Be it the path of life or love, I am sure you don’t want to be lost and stuck, not knowing where to go?
Remember, the longer you drag things, the worse will the situation become. And in the end, you might not only be hurting those who truly love you but also yourself too.
When you have to choose, you just have to. Having choices is always better than having none at all, isn’t it? Now, not many may be as fortunate as you. So, don’t lose that chance when you have it.
Work things the smart way. Learn to cherish what you have…

Is It Love or Is It Lust?

Ever have the thought that you could be dangerously in love? Falling into the danger of having confusion and misunderstanding between love and lust, unable to handle your emotions well enough?
Now, what is the difference between love and lust? Well, I should believe that it is something worth our thoughts and understanding.
If you were to look through a dictionary, you should find something like this:
LOVE:
• To have strong feelings of affection for another adult and be romantically and sexually attracted to them
• Warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion
• Unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another
LUST:
• An overwhelming desire or craving: a lust for power
• Usually intense or unbridled sexual desire
• Intense eagerness or enthusiasm
Notice how different they can be? Seeing the sign that you could possibly be dangerously in love?
True love, the genuine care and concern for your love is what we should be having. But lust, the uncontrolled desire or craving for your love is certainly not to be desired. Having too much of lust than to love can certainly bring danger to your love relationship.
But well, we are still human afterall and I must say that these very two emotions is certainly within and happening inside of us. You can never deny that fact that you will be having lust at times. But perhaps all these while, it just didn’t occur to you that you have at times been actually feeling so, having some uncontrolled lust over your love.
So, I thought it would be good to just bring to your attention and make you be aware of it, to allow you to be better handling your emotions.
In simple, we can say that love is a choice; a choice that you hope to have; to be having that chance to be with that someone whom you love, having that chance to genuinely and unselfishly be giving him or her your true tender love and care, bringing about that happiness for him or her. Whereas lust is a want, an obsessive desire to have purely for self-satisfaction and pleasure.


When you love someone, you love him or her for who they are. You always respect your love and never insist on them doing things that are against their will, which may include having sex.
Now, love is always a two-way communication and not just about you. In a love relationship, you give and take. You don’t just take and take. By only taking and not giving, you are actually behaving in a way of having lust, wanting just more and more for yourself out of the relationship. Instead of providing your love with happiness, you are only thinking about how your love can or should make you happy. To describe it in a more ugly way, you are just loving yourself more than to actually loving him or her. And this is certainly not the way as to how a love relationship should be. A blissful love relationship should always be mutual, a mutual happiness for the both.
Many at times, we tend to just think for ourselves and this can be especially so for those who are already in a steady love relationship for or a year or more. Well, in the beginning of the love relationship, both would always be on their best to make their love, their partner happy. Just recall those sweet memories. Don’t you just genuinely feel happy when you were able to make them smile and happy back then? And to even be happy when accepting their bad habits and faults?
But very often, it is sad to be saying that thing changes when the both eventually got together. Finding faults with one another, quarreling over the slightest things. All the initial acceptance of one another was just not longer there anymore. And for some, sadly to even have to end the very relationship.
Now, are you in a love relationship; one which has already passes that initial honeymoon period? Still going steadily with one another? If you are, well done and congratulations!
But do let me just ask. Between the both, who has been the one whom is always the one giving? Well, there must certainly have been one of you who have been the one giving more. Think about it.
Whoever that may be, I would say that he or she has given you their true love and care, a wonderful and unselfish love. And this is definitely a love you should cherish, a love whom you should respect.


Do just honestly ask yourself. Have you unknowingly at times react in a way of lust, unreasonably blaming your love when he or she is not able to meet your expectations; not able to make you happy? And not to mention having forcing him or her to do something against their will just to satisfy your very own wants, to making you yourself happy?
Remember, nobody is perfect and that includes you. And that is why we have to learn to give and take. We were taught that since young and it absolutely applies too in a love relationship.
We give and we take. Not too much of giving nor too much of taking.
Have you unknowingly been taking too much? Think about it. It is still not late to be realizing it now especially when you have that chance.